The worst policy of all is to besiege walled cities. The rule is, not to besiege walled cities if it can possibly be avoided.
From Sun Tzu’s The Art of War
From Sun Tzu’s The Art of War
I really like the image of being “walled off” however, and often feel that many therapists choose this strategy when confronted with dissonance. Perhaps without even knowing it they move directly from the open spaces a workshop provides back to the insular nature of their life, clinical and otherwise. It seems that this can be accomplished by the time they reach the car to drive home. Others drift back a little more slowly as we’ve seen here – but they make it back there nonetheless.
The Internet has provided an openness regarding conflict that some of us enjoy and others find, well, inconvenient. Perhaps the paradox of the situation is this: the very thing that could provide a vehicle over the bridge also exposes the inertia of those on one side of the chasm.
I know a lot of wonderful hard-working therapists who hate the vehicle, dismiss it, distrust it and/or virtually deny its existence.
They effectively wall themselves off in this way and, as Sun Tzu says, we’re stuck with the worst possible strategy when trying to reach them.
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