So what has been accomplished here? It seems to me that everyone is going away with the belief that they are still right, the other side is still wrong and no one has gone away with an appreciation for the perspective of the other. After 5 pages, two weeks, and over 3000 views that doesn't look productive to me.
Believing you are right in a debate, or just a discussion, is the default. Although some of us enjoy arguing both sides of an issue, but generally you argue for what you believe to be true. I see no arrogance in that, if I believed that is all that is happening I would see no cause for people to percieve arrogance. To be clear, most of the questionining I observed in this latest thread and in most others is of that sort, but I also definitely find some comments that verge on being insulting. For those that argue that this is a fair forum, I suggest that you take your arguments to another forum, one that is less accepting of your ideas, such as EIM, (besides Jason) and see if you feel they have given you and your ideas a fair representation. I would guess you will leave feeling they have been dismissive, close minded and arrogant. I am sure they will make the same arguments as to their fairness as those above.
Although I am sensitive to issues of fairness and justice, my job is not to be Miss Manners. I find it very strange to find myself playing that role. I play it here because of the dissonance between the stated purpose of many here and the behavior. You want to get the word out, but then take every action to make sure that others are not wont to listen.
It reminds me of a time I went to the beach with a friend of mine from Brazil. A good looking young woman who wore a bikini to the beach which might be considered modest in Sao Paulo, but was just short of scandalous here. Five minutes after hitting the beach she turned to me and said "I hate everyone staring. Why are they staring?" To everyone who heard the question it was obvious.
Unlike there, here I am perfectly willing to share my ideas about the cause. To her I said, of course, "I have no idea"
Believing you are right in a debate, or just a discussion, is the default. Although some of us enjoy arguing both sides of an issue, but generally you argue for what you believe to be true. I see no arrogance in that, if I believed that is all that is happening I would see no cause for people to percieve arrogance. To be clear, most of the questionining I observed in this latest thread and in most others is of that sort, but I also definitely find some comments that verge on being insulting. For those that argue that this is a fair forum, I suggest that you take your arguments to another forum, one that is less accepting of your ideas, such as EIM, (besides Jason) and see if you feel they have given you and your ideas a fair representation. I would guess you will leave feeling they have been dismissive, close minded and arrogant. I am sure they will make the same arguments as to their fairness as those above.
Although I am sensitive to issues of fairness and justice, my job is not to be Miss Manners. I find it very strange to find myself playing that role. I play it here because of the dissonance between the stated purpose of many here and the behavior. You want to get the word out, but then take every action to make sure that others are not wont to listen.
It reminds me of a time I went to the beach with a friend of mine from Brazil. A good looking young woman who wore a bikini to the beach which might be considered modest in Sao Paulo, but was just short of scandalous here. Five minutes after hitting the beach she turned to me and said "I hate everyone staring. Why are they staring?" To everyone who heard the question it was obvious.
Unlike there, here I am perfectly willing to share my ideas about the cause. To her I said, of course, "I have no idea"
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