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Barrett Dorko
12-05-2007, 05:05 PM
It’s been a quiet week in Cuyahoga Falls…

It’s just a short flight from Cleveland to Cincinnati. The plane is very small, making it a little harder for me to avoid speaking to anyone though I usually manage this with my naturally silent presence and carefully cultivated air of disinterest. I’m not easily approached while I travel and I prefer that. This changes when I teach, of course.

But on Tuesday my seatmate seemed not to notice my manner and soon after he sat beside me he complained: “These have got to be the worst seats!” I suppose he was expecting some assent from me, perhaps a mutual complaint about the pain I was surely already feeling, maybe a little story about how Continental seats differed from Southwest’s and how the best were on United but even thinking about this started to make my eyes cross so I just shrugged noncommittally and that did it. He never said another word.

Anyway, I felt fine, and my seat wasn’t any better than his, to say nothing of the fact that I’m thirty years his senior. I could have pointed out that the problem wasn’t the seat but the body he’d placed in it. I could have speculated about the adaptive potential ( http://www.barrettdorko.com/articles/adaptive.htm) he obviously didn’t possess and how this probably signified a persistent abnormal neurodynamic leading to the immediacy of his ischemic discomfort. I could have suggested he abduct his hips a little and change his breathing but I didn’t. I suspected that any of this would only lead to some conversation. I don’t want that.

I slept through takeoff and wakened to some nearby disturbance after ten minutes. The guy with the painful neural tension beside me was in a protracted battle with the man in the seat ahead of his. It was hard for me to ignore because all of this was occurring about six inches away. My friend had placed his briefcase behind his lower back in order to add some blood flow to his nervous tissue (I assume. I didn’t mention this, of course) thus driving his knees forward several inches. His opponent had decided to recline but found he could not. Every few seconds the man ahead of us would ballistically contract his spinal extensors in an effort to get where he wanted (“More neural tension there,” I silently surmised) while the man beside me drove his knees even further forward in order to block him. There was a steady escalation of this melee as we descended toward Southern Ohio and it actually got noisy. I watched it silently though I’m sure my expression revealed a growing alarm. The small smile on Mr. Briefcase’s face was especially disturbing. For my part, I wondered what would happen once we landed.

The wheels touched down for me as they have several thousand times before but my mood was anxious and full of dread. I noticed the consequences of empathy rise in me though I was not personally involved in any way in this conflict. In fact, I wrote about something similar a few weeks ago here ( http://www.somasimple.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3455). I suppose that this is just part of my being human, but I’m working on that.

These two men stood as soon as we arrived at the gate, gathered their things, behaved as if nothing whatsoever had been going on during the entire flight, and then walked down the aisle toward the door. I watched this carefully and felt two things, relief and disappointment.

I told two classes about this during the tour and while they found it funny on a certain level no one has yet been able to explain what all of this might mean. I mean, there’s got to be something here – otherwise I wouldn’t still be thinking about it.

Maybe someone reading this can help.

nari
12-05-2007, 11:48 PM
Rather weird, but a few things come to mind:
Anxiety with flying
Lousy adaptive potentials (already noted)
Personal space violation
Barrett did not chat idly to said ischaemic fellow about lousy seating
Neither ischaemic man wanted an actual stand-off, therefore engaged in pantomime

One can be lucky - I once flew to Amsterdam from Sydney next to an Irish chap returning home and apart from a hellohowareyou we did not exchange a single word. As we landed, he said: Thanks for being a great fellow traveller.
I never forgot that bit of wisdom.

Nari

Barrett Dorko
14-05-2007, 03:09 PM
Nari,

I always return to why I am so interested in something I might just as easily forget. Almost always this is because of what the event or image represents or symbolizes in my own mind – not what is actually is in reality.

At some point in every course I ask someone as they change in my hands if they’ve had a painful problem for a long time and if they are pursuing any care for it. The answers are respectively yes and no. Then I say this: “I’m going to offer you a new job. It begins tomorrow. You will make in the coming year an additional $80,000. There’s just one catch – you have to sit all day. Will you take the job?"

I’ve asked this question of about 500 therapists and the answer has in every instance been “No.” I know I could have asked many others with the same result. This is the definition of disability.

The fact that they do not seek care reflects the state of our profession’s confidence in its approach to a simple abnormal neurodynamic; an essential diagnosis studied carefully, written of massively and still almost entirely mysterious to our colleagues.

I think these guys on the plane pounding upon each other without exchanging a word or glance became to me emblematic of this huge issue; our own profession’s pain and discouragement and inertia. As far as I know, I’m the only one teaching regularly who points out the consequences of our ignorance, and I swear I only do so because I think it can change if we begin to focus on the ectoderm.

No one ever tells me that what I’ve said isn’t true.

Bas
14-05-2007, 10:42 PM
Or these fellows were "taking out" their frustration with their seats, pain, the world, whatever - in a typical aggressive competitive fashion. This is a distraction from what really bugs them. Likely something they feel "powerless" to address.....

It makes me think of the spousal fights over minor things - usually just an outlet for the pent-up storage of much more important issues that don't get addressed. It took me more than a marriage to learn to change that.

nari
15-05-2007, 01:12 AM
Empathy with people in conflict usually reminds us of conflict we have experienced and either resolved, or are still hanging onto.

I think many therapists are in a bit of conflict; they like what they are doing, worry about what they may not be doing, and fear the consequences if they look too hard into alternative doings. Those who are in pain and do nothing about resolving that pain, in an intuitive way or not, cannot be of much inspiration to their patients. I can't / won't do anything about my pain, but I will have a go at resolving your pain.

That's weird. It is implying I don't understand my pain, but I understand yours. And if I don't understand your pain, I won't try to find out more about origins of pain.
Weirder still.

The word 'pain' includes those issues outside of therapy which Bas alluded to.

Nari